Gay and Gray - at the crossroads

Thanks again to The Centralina Area Agency on Aging for sponsoring the Gay and Gray conference these last two days. It was an honor to be there and to have the opportunity to share from a first person transgender perspective.

The event was more than I expected. There were issues presented that hit home in a rather personal way. Today was primarily aimed at the helping professionals. As always there was time to meet old and new friends, along with some networking. It was a most worthwhile two days.

As a follow up on the murder trial of Allen Andrade, murderer of Angie Zapata, most people have heard by now he was convicted of a bias motivated crime. As such he will serve a lifetime sentence with no possibility of parole.

This is a landmark case inasmuch as it was the first conviction of the murderer of a transgender person based upon hate crime legislation. We hope the day will come when all states have equal protection. At this moment, South Carolina has no hate crime legislation while North Carolina's statutes are sorely lacking.

In that same line of thought, Equality North Carolina makes the following announcement:

"4/29/2009 - In a whirlwind of legislative action today, the Senate Mental Health & Youth Services Committee passed both the School Violence Prevention Act (SB 526) and the Healthy Youth Act (HB 88). The bills now go to the Senate floor for a vote, possibly as soon as early next week. Equality NC and our coalition partners are working to ensure passage of both bills."

If you live in North Carolina, you are encouraged to email your state senator and urge passage of this important legislation.

Gay & Gray - at the crossroads

The Gay & Gray Conference to address issues pertaining to LGBT seniors is being held in Charlotte next week. I will have an opportunity to speak to the helping professionals Wednesday. The Tuesday evening session is free to the public. The needs of this segment of the community are often overlooked. Thanks to The Centralina Area Agency on Aging for offering this conference.


I've been DVR'ing much of the Angie Zapata murder trial or more accurately the Allen Andrade murder trial. Jury instructions are being read as I type this. The issue is not whether he did it but whether it was a hate crime. Supposedly he went over the edge when he found Angie was transgender. Yet the evidence says he knew much earlier. Moreover in a telephone conversation from the jail, he said "gay things need to die".

This is one more example of the dehumanizing homophobia we see to varying degrees in society even today. It happens with people who should know better. A Court TV reporter cited a statistic that a transgender person has a 1 in 12 chance of being murdered. Whether it's that high, I don't know. However the chances of being subjected to harrasment or violence are astronomically high. It is incomprehensible to me that some people in the local transgender community do not yet think in terms of a united LGBT community.

A number of transgender people are in Greely, CO covering the trial. An excellent blog can be read here.

Angie Zapata

The trial for the accused murderer of Angie Zapata began Tuesday April 14th. Court TV is covering the proceedings. Family and supporters have begun a personal website. Visit it here.

They have played the audio of phone calls the accused murderer made from the jail after he was arrested. Some of the verbage had to be bleeped out. Naturally I thought of Sean Kennedy and the fact the family was not even allowed to hear recordings of the voice mails Sean's killer left until after the trial.

Opening statements in the Angie Zapata trial are still taking place.

Sean's murderer will be released July 7th. We will have a vigil in Greenville, SC Sunday evening May 17th to commemorate two years since Sean's murder. I can't bring myself to call it a second anniversary.

My dear friend Ana invited me to her home church in Winston Salem last evening for a showing of Call Me Malcom. It's always amazing you can meet or listen to a total stranger and instantly relate to what he/she has lived through.

It was so nice meeting folks from another United Church of Christ. Visiting another church is always like coming home.

April 16, 2009

We spent 12 hours at UNC Charlotte yesterday. The updated educational panels with the voice mails from the night of Sean's murder moved a lot of people.

Last year I spoke at Winthrop University and had the same feeling. There is something about seeing our future leaders come to the forefront that moves me to tears. These young folks are amazing. If any of you read this, I am proud to have met you all.





A drag performer was murdered in Fayetteville, NC two nights ago. You can read the article via this link at Pam's House Blend. It just goes on and on. In the auditorium last night there were photographs of slain LGBT people on the screen. Signs were posted outside with many photos. Then I come home and read this.

There is an issue of whether she identified as gender variant. What I do know is she identified as a human being.

Days of Silence

April 17 is the official National Day of Silence, a time to bring attention to bullying and harassment in our school systems. No child should get up in the morning wondering if they will be subjected to violence.

The University of NC Charlotte is having their observance tomorrow. Elke Kennedy is giving the keynote address at 6 PM. The updated educational panels will be on display all day. An addition to these panels is a CD with audio of the voice mails Sean's killer left as Sean was dying. Those of us on the Sean's Last Wish Board of Directors listened to the tape for the first time last month. Chilling is the only word that comes to mind. Listening for oneself brings home the urgency of the need for hate crime legislation, coupled with a never ending attempt to touch hearts. As I have often said, no one touches a heart like a mother does. I hope lots of people hear Elke tomorrow.

March 23 was The Equality North Carolina Day of Action. It was a day for people all over NC to travel to Raleigh to share their concerns with legislators from their home district. I am appreciative of my Representative Martha Alexander for granting me a few minutes of her time during a very busy day. Even though we had appointments there was pressing business in the chambers. It was an empowering day for everyone who participated. To spend time in the Legislative Building with your representative is something everyone should have the opportunity of doing.

Equality North Carolina continues to dialogue with the transgender community through their Transgender Task Force. We had a meeting in Raleigh April 2nd. It is a privilege to share ideas with people whom I hold in the highest personal regard, both as colleagues and friends.

Driving home that night in the rain I began thinking of how far we have come since I came out all those years ago. We talk a lot about what yet needs to be done. The needs are many and they are vital.... a trans inclusive ENDA, hate crime legislation, non discrimination at both the state and local level etc.

Even so, some of us have been around long enough to remember when it was not safe for a transgender person to walk out the front door, literally. I think often of friends from the seventies who would say all they wanted was freedom to be who they were. Well, things are not perfect but we sure do have that freedom now. Sometimes we need to remember to claim it. Those dear friends are a part of my personal history and who I am. I think of them each day.

Our faith group is now Charlotte Interfaith Connection. At only our third meeting we voted to have a booth at Pride Charlotte this July. We will have a website online soon. I have already set up a listserv realizing we will have the need for enhanced communication as we move forward.

Our Jewish friends invited us to Passover Seder last week. It was an honor to be with them that evening. As important as our outreach to the local faith community is, becoming friends with each other has been a huge blessing.

For so long it has been said we have a divided community. The rift among the LGBT community has been perceived. The chasm between the community and 'the church' has been experienced by far too many of us. We are doing things to bring unity in both areas. Complete success will certainly not happen in my lifetime. But when a heart is disposed to change, the world is more disposed to change. This is the truth we seek to spread.

This short video on Youtube illustrates that point in a most moving way.

My dear friend, Ana is Southern Conference ONA Director for United Church of Christ. She invited me to her home church in Winston Salem this Thursday for a showing of 'Call Me Malcolm', followed by a panel discussion. I'm looking forward to the evening and seeing some friends for the first time in a while.